You're Not Over-thinking... You're Under-feeling

When we’re stuck in our minds, we’re out of our body.

When we're out of our body we create an inner tension that doesn’t feel good.

when we don’t feel good, we feel resistance to what we're doing.

We sense that something needs to change, like there's something wrong with us.

This mental judgement in the moment can lead to us to problem-solve whats going on inside of us.

This begins the whirlwind of "overthinking" in most cases.

But what if solving a problem, is an illusion? and its actually much simpler.

Today, I want to share a quick story about how clients and I move out of overthinking, out of resistance, and into inner peace and clarity.

How "Under-feeling" Manifests As "Over-thinking"

Today I had a call with a 1-1 client.

I like to take my calls outside so I took a walk in the forest nearby.

Our idea for todays call was to explore key lessons he uncovered in 2025 and map out his lifestyle and business intention based on how he's uniquely wired for growth in 2026

Early in the conversation, I could sense that this client was stuck in his head, I could feel an unsaid tension rising.

So I moved in a direction that seemed to be "off track" but led us to a profound breakthrough.

We explored key patterns and blockages he was facing when it came to expressing himself.

He shared how he felt triggered by little things in his daily life such as someone smoking next to him, feeling frustrated by it but saying nothing.

Triggers like this are powerful because they give us data.

He had a fire in his belly that was looking to be expressed, a truth that wanted to be spoken

But... he was consumed by a feeling of fear that if he was to express himself in his full power and say what he truly wanted to say, that it would be "too much" for others.

This is not uncommon for men in the modern day.

We discovered that under the surface was suppressed anger and deeper under that was sadness.

Two emotions that are closely linked to one another.

He began to recall memories from when he expressed himself as a child but he was told to "be quiet" to keep the peace. Feeling responsible for others emotions and suppressing his own.

In those moments he learned that it was not safe to express emotions when he felt them.

So he labelled them as wrong... as something to "fix"

Then, when he felt that way in the present day as these small triggers arose, a voice in his head told him to push those feelings away because they're "wrong"

When those feelings got pushed away, the mind took over.

When this happens, you live in the world of thoughts, trying to "problem solve" the overthinking when really all that needs to happen is to feel.

On the call we embraced the emotions that arose in the conversation.

We let them settle. We allowed them to be seen.

We sat with the shadow together, without judgement.

We dove in head first to liberate the "stuck-ness" instead of "trying to talk about it" or "do something" to change it.

There was nothing to change.. feelings don't need to be solved.

When we allow ourselves to feel, we dissolve the root cause of the overthinking.

That’s when we get out of the mind and back into the body.

The heaviness lifts. The mind goes quiet.

On the other side of that moment was profound clarity.

A sense of liberation.

A remembering of who he was before the feelings were suppressed

A clear mind, an open heart and a power unleashed within.

On the other side of this experience for him is more powerful, authentic leadership in service to his own clients, more powerful content, clearer boundaries in relationships and higher standards for what he accepts in his life.

The problem wasn't overthinking. It was under feeling.

Your emotions are simply data pointing you towards a simpler path.

The Real Question You Need to Ask Yourself

In those moments of resistance, instead of forcing yourself forward to fix anything

Can you have the compassion to check in with your body and ask:

What do I actually need right now?

Not what your mind thinks you should be doing.

Whenever something feels overly complex, confusing, or difficult, I know something else is happening underneath.

Things might be hard, but they’re not complex.

when they feel complex, it’s usually emotional, not mental.

3 Pillars for Getting Out of Overthinking

Here’s the simple framework:

1. Pause

Catch yourself. Observe your thoughts. Step away.

Ask: What does my body need right now?

2. Feel

Let yourself feel whatever is there (no phone)

This could look like:

• Going to the gym with no phone
• Listening to music
• Taking a walk
• Lying down with no distractions
• Moving your body
• Breathing
• Sitting in silence

Whatever brings you back into presence. When the body decompresses and relaxes, the mind calms as a natural byproduct of you feeling.

3. Rest

This one seems simple… but in a world of constant motion, it’s revolutionary.

Rest says:
Who I am is enough. What I’ve already done is enough.

Rest isn’t laziness, it's recovery, acceptance and integration.

And often, after resting?

The spark comes back. Creativity flows. Ideas land effortlessly. Clarity arrives out of nowhere.

This can all happen in a single day, but you can’t schedule it by the hour.

Life isn’t that linear.

You just got to feel the moment and trust it.

Final Reminder

Check in with yourself throughout the day.

These three phases (1) pause (2) feel (3) rest allow you to master your emotions and remind yourself:

You’re allowed to just be.

You’re allowed to feel.

You’re allowed to rest.

That’s enough

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Bonus Material: You can watch the training video related to this post below "if you're overthinking business... try this."